I Have a Good Relationship with Food… Mostly

I Have a Good Relationship with Food… Mostly

I’ve been sitting on this post for a few weeks. After I wrote it in a flurry of emotion, I felt uncomfortable sharing it with the world. Then this morning I realized that I want to share it with you, not the world. Because you might be the one person it resonates with. So here goes.

It has taken me a long time to say this: I have a good relationship with food.

Except when I don’t.

At HealthyV, the most important rule I hold myself to is being authentic and transparent with you. I stepped on the scale today (my first mistake) and it was a little high. And even though I want you to see food as nourishment and fuel for a full active life, I still struggle with my own food relationship.

So though I would be more comfortable keeping to myself and letting you assume I’m a perfect health guru, the truth is that that I am only human just like you. I have days when I’m on top of the world and I thank my lucky stars that I turned my frumpy, low confidence life around, lost 40 lbs and learned that NOTHING is impossible.

Then I have days when I resent only getting to eat 1600 calories of pure clean foods when the skinny mini next to me is eating pancakes with syrup. Some days, I too feel like I’m always struggling with the scale.

But you know what happens? The next day comes, and I’m on top of the world again. So I have a phrase for you to think about today.

How you feel is not who you are.

Get it? Let me break it down for ya.

What I mean is don’t let your self-limiting beliefs become your identity. Anything really is possible even if you don’t feel it at the moment.

I thought being round and dumpy was written in my genetic code. I resented the pants off people who looked like I do now.

But, what I discovered is that I really do have control over my life. And so do you.

Try this: next time you are down on yourself, disengage and go do something else. Go read a book, throw yourself into a project, or just go to bed. I promise you, when you wake up the next morning the sun will be shining and it will be a brand new day.

Everything is simpler than you think.

Now go get ’em.

6 Responses to I Have a Good Relationship with Food… Mostly

  1. “How you feel is not who you are.”

    Holy crap, how true that is, and how difficult to remember it at times. Thanks for your honesty here–the poisonous comparison game (be it over blogging, or food, or business, etc) sucks. Cheers to recognizing that it doesn’t define us, and that WE are in control.

    Love this post.

  2. This post couldn’t come at a better time. Thanks for reminding me it is NOT impossible for me to become the healthiest happiest I can be. I’ve been struggling and it helps to know that it isn’t so easy for everyone on the planet but me. I’ve just begun feeling better about myself and my eating. I think I just might be on to something.

    • Paula, keep moving forward like you’re doing. It helps to remember that there is really never a destination. We’re always working on improving ourselves. So might as well feel good with yourself right now. :)

  3. True story, I CAME to your site today because about eight weeks ago, you nudged me into a good place. I was a little higher this morning, too, and was beating myself up. Sat down at the computer in hopes of finding those words that would help. It’s hard. Every single day is hard. Then I have a day when I overhear a woman behind me at the buffet say, in a super high voice, “Oh, look what the skinny girl is eating!” and I want to hug her. That wasn’t today, though, and today your words were what this old girl needed. Thanks so much and keep on remembering that your words are making a difference – all the way up here in snow-covered Maine!

    • Mary-Anne, thank you for the beautiful feedback. It helps each of us to know that we aren’t alone in how we are feeling. :) Adria

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